Built from the chaos. Driven by clarity.
Off The Record Child Custody was born out of survival. Not theory. Not textbooks. Real-life family court hell — where the stakes are high, the gaslighting is constant, and the legal system often feels like it’s working against you.
We know what it’s like to trust attorneys who don’t fight for you. To feel unheard. To hand over major evidence only to see it ignored. To second-guess every text, every move, every instinct.
We’ve been there. And we built what we wish we had.
This isn’t a law firm. We’re not here to play pretend. We’re here to guide, support, and strategize with you — as women and parents who’ve lived through high-conflict custody battles and came out not just surviving, but documenting, analyzing, and winning.
Off the Record. On Your Side. When no one else gets it, we do. The system won’t save you – We help you save yourself.
Her Story Could Be Yours
Ten years. That’s how long she’s been in court.
It started like it does for so many women — she thought leaving the abuse would be the end of it. She thought that once she got her two kids out, once the bruises faded and the screaming stopped, she’d finally be free.
But abusers don’t stop just because you leave.
He weaponized the court system next. Filed for full custody. Claimed she was unstable. Told the judge she was “uncooperative.” He’d never changed a diaper or attended a school meeting, but now he wanted control — and the system was more than willing to give him the microphone.
She couldn’t afford an attorney. Not with two mouths to feed and a warehouse job that barely covered rent. She represented herself for years. Printed court papers at the library. Typed declarations on borrowed laptops. Showed up to every hearing terrified, underdressed, and exhausted — while he walked in with a private attorney and a polished lie.
The judge didn’t see her fear. He didn’t see the years of emotional abuse. He only saw two parents fighting — and the mother getting labeled “difficult” for trying to protect her children.
She lost time. She lost holidays. She lost her voice.
But she didn’t lose her fight.
Because eventually — after a decade of being dragged through the mud, through CPS calls, false allegations, supervised visits, and therapist reports — she learned how to play their game. She stopped begging for fairness and started building a case. She documented everything. She tracked violations. She learned how to write declarations that actually got read. She showed up like the woman they weren’t expecting.
And slowly, the tide started to turn.
This story isn’t about some miracle happy ending. It’s about surviving something no one prepares you for. It’s about being a mother in a courtroom that doesn’t care how much you’ve endured — only what you can prove.
She never had the system on her side.
But she learned how to stop letting that destroy her — and started using it to protect what mattered most: her kids.
She built the kind of strength you don’t learn in books — the kind that comes from being knocked down and standing up anyway. And now, she helps other parents do the same. Not as a lawyer. Not as a savior. But as someone who’s been through the storm, took notes, and built a map.
Why We're Here
Because family court doesn’t come with a manual. Because parents are told to be quiet, cooperate, and not rock the boat. Because too many moms or dads are silenced, dismissed, or forced to choose between their child’s safety and court compliance. Because your instinct isn’t wrong — it’s just been undermined for too long. This isn’t therapy. This isn’t law. This is tactical, emotional, lived-through-it coaching.
Who We're For
You don’t need to be in trial to need support. You might be: Still in the relationship and trying to plan your escape, Sharing custody with someone manipulative or emotionally abusive, Getting buried by documentation and overwhelmed by the process, Feeling like your attorney doesn’t get it — or doesn’t care, Wondering if what you’re going through is “bad enough” to fight back. If you’ve ever thought: “Am I crazy?” — you’re exactly who we’re here for.
Exit Planning Strategy
For anyone preparing to leave — safely, quietly, and with a plan. We help you organize your next steps, document abuse without alerting your co-parent, and create a timeline that protects you and your child.
One-on-One Custody Coaching
This is where clarity starts. Personalized strategy sessions to break down your custody situation, understand what the court actually cares about, and get your next three steps mapped out.
Communication Review & Message Rewrites
Stop texting emotionally and start texting like the judge is reading. We help rewrite responses, set boundaries, and stay credible under pressure.
Evidence & Pattern Building
Turn chaos into a clear pattern. We help organize, label, and frame your evidence in a way the court can follow — and take seriously.
Declaration Drafting & Feedback
We don’t ghostwrite — but we help shape, refine, and elevate your declarations so they’re focused, factual, and judge-ready.
Court Prep & Testimony Roleplay
Don’t wing it. We practice your answers, help you stay composed, and coach you through how to present yourself clearly and confidently in court.
Research
Different cases, different strategies. We help you understand your courtroom’s expectations so you don’t walk in unprepared.
Real-Time Emergency Support
Ex changes gone sideways? Court hearing in an hour? We offer live coaching when the heat is on and you need to stay calm, clear, and strategic.
Custom Strategy Plans
No two custody battles are the same. We build customized support plans based on your stage, your goals, and your budget.
Emotional Grounding & Tactical Mindset Coaching
We’re not therapists — but we’ve been where you are. We help you separate fear from fact, respond instead of react, and stay focused on what matters most: your child.
Not Sure Where To Start? Try Our Power Audit
Our mission is to support parents navigating high-conflict custody battles—strategically, emotionally, and powerfully.
Every case is different, and so are the needs that come with it. If none of the packages fit exactly what you’re looking for, we’re happy to customize something that matches your situation and still honors the value of the work we do. This isn’t a one-size-fits-all situation — and neither is your support.
The Power Audit is a deep dive into your custody case where we review your filings, court orders, violations, and overall dynamic. From there, we create a fully customized plan using only the services you need. Think of it as your personal custody war room — with an à la carte menu of options that becomes your own strategic combo. Every case is different. Yours gets treated that way.